Chris Pinyo: mel, you need to stop looking for perfection...cuz you're not gonna find it. no one's perfect. nothing's perfect. everything has flaws...but its these flaws that you have to deal with to make it work. I'll never forget that.

This was at the Boat one late spring night...me, Chris and Augustus. We started out talking about sex, you know, like how guys typically do...but then somehow we eventually got to talking about love & relationships...and it was one of the most deep conversations I've ever had.

I remember him telling me how much he hates his ex-girlfriend now...

Chris: i hate her so much...she put me through so much pain...
Mel: ...if you could go back in time, would you do it again?
Chris: yeah...even though it hurts now, I did love her at one point...and we did have some great times.

Whoa. I never heard anyone say something like that before...probably because I was too scared to intrude on someone's love life like that.

But still...after pondering about it for the rest of the night, I realized this whole talk is more than just about relationships...it's about LIFE.

Think about it...life is full of flaws. Nothing in this world is perfect. NOTHING. Its funny, you hear Ms. Universe pagaent contestants wishing for bullshit like world peace...:rolleyes:

And this idea of imperfection applies to people too...think about it...what if everyone in this world was perfect? We'd all be Gods. And if everyone was perfect, what would seperate one guy from the next? What would make people UNIQUE??? If we were all perfect, we'd all be the same.

Our flaws are what make us HUMAN.

What would the world be like without Erol acting like a dumbass? What would the world be like without Sherwin's brash male chauvanist humor? What would the world be like without Drunken Josh making a fool of himself when he's drunk?

It'd be BORING AS FUCK.

So, after realizing all of this...realizing how imperfection is just a part of life...I realized that not only should I be thankful for all the blessings in my life...but I should be thankful for all of the flaws that make me the man that I am today.